Child in Charge
When Parents and Teachers don't know What to do
Saturday, December 14, 2019
10:00 am to 2:00 pm
4 DCYF MERIT STARS CEUs available
(Washington State Department of Children, Youth, and Families)
Since the 1960s and 1970s, many families and teachers have been observing an inversion in adult-child dynamics. Children may be labeled defiant or disobedient, bossy or spoiled, while parents and teachers don’t seem to be standing clearly in their role as the caring authority and provider. This workshop looks at the late 20th and early 21st centuries in terms of “how we got here” and explores current research in the disciplines on attachment-based development and interpersonal neurobiology.
“Children do not experience our intentions, no matter how heartfelt. They experience what we manifest in tone and behavior.”
- Gordon Neufeld
Using examples from every day life we will discover the ways in which children who are acting out give clues about their insecurities, unmet needs, and stuck-ness in anger.
Caregivers in any setting can be good detectives about what is behind a child’s challenging behaviors and this helps to answer the most important questions, including, "What does the child truly need?" With better information, every adult can reclaim their role as the warm, firm, calm, and connected provider for the needs of the child. In turn, the child can relax into authentic adult authority.
feedback from attendees
"I appreciated the discussion about the 'whys' of behavior"